I recently was scrolling through my news feed and I saw someone make a comment to their spouse that they were their soulmate and it triggered something in me and it just did not sit right with me. So I went and dug a little and this is what I have come up with.
Greco-Roman mythology posits that every person is only half a soul and that each person searches the world over for the other half of his or her soul (i.e. soulmates). Soul mates are inclusive of male/female relationships and platonic relationships (i.e. BFFs or siblings, etcetera). The Bible, YaHuWaH’s kodesh Debar/Word teaches, though, that when the being known as ha-ish/the man, AKA Adam, YaHuWaH gave him (Adam) the breath of life, the ruach of a living man from the ruach of a living El.
This was not a half enterprise, rather a fully functioning man with a body, soul, and mind. Adam did not have to search the world over for his other half; in fact, YaHuWaH presented to Adam his helper, his complement in life, the woman (ha-isha) who would fulfill him in all ways always as he would her. The idea/concept that there are soul mates, the “better half” of us or that one person who “completes” us is a lie of haSatan. A little bit of truth hidden in a huge lie.
The term “soul ties” was coined by false teachers to misrepresent the meaning of certain passages of scripture. The term soul ties never appears in scripture, and neither does the concept it describes. The term refers to supposed uniting or tying of one person’s ruach to the ruach of another person in some way. The Bible never describes such a possibility nor teaches that it exists.
False teachers point to passages like 1 Samuel 18:1, which says David’s soul was knit to Jonathan’s soul, or 1 Corinthians 6:16, which commands believers not to engage in sexual sin, to support their improper interpretation. They claim these passages are examples of knitting souls together, but their claim is not supported by a proper interpretation of the text. These two entered into a covenant together. Covenants unite two people in a lifelong earthly bond, not a spiritual bond.
In the case of David and Jonathan, Jonathan felt great affection and admiration for David, recognizing him to be the future king of Israel, and so he became devoted to David and entered into a covenant with David (i.e., his soul was knit to David). Obviously, this terminology doesn’t mean that the two men were united in some mystical, spiritual sense. It simply describes their deep emotional and covenantal bond. Rather, this is a classic case of false teaching distorting the true meaning of scripture to promulgate strange myths built upon speculation.
1Sa 18:1 And it came to be, when he had ended speaking to Sha’ul, that the being of Yehonathan was knit to the being of Dawiḏ, and Yehonathan loved him as his own being.
1Sa 18:2 And Sha’ul took him that day, and would not let him return to his father’s house any more.
1Sa 18:3 And Yehonathan and Dawiḏ made a covenant, because he loved him as his own being.
1Sa 18:4 And Yehonathan took off the robe that was on him and gave it to Dawiḏ, and his garments, even to his sword and his bow and his girdle.
1Sa 18:5 And Dawiḏ went out wherever Sha’ul sent him. He acted wisely, and Sha’ul set him over the men of battle, and it was right in the eyes of all the people and also in the eyes of Sha’ul’s servants.
1) to bind, tie, bind together, league together, conspire
1a1) to bind, confine
1a2) to league together, conspire
1b) (Niphal) to be bound, be bound up
1c1) to bind on
1c2) to bind fast
1c3) to bind, tie
1c4) to bind to oneself
1d) (Pual) robust, vigorous (participle)
1e) (Hithpael) to conspire
Part of Speech: verb
A Related Word by BDB/Strong’s Number: a primitive root: to tie, physically (gird, confine, compact) or mentally (in love, league)
In the case of 1 Corinthians 6:16 Paul warns believers not to become “one-flesh” with prostitutes through an act of sexual immorality. Notice Paul’s concern was that of becoming one flesh, not one soul. He was describing the life-long bond of marriage, not a special spiritual union.
Therefore, there is no biblical support for the concept of soul ties. It is an unbiblical teaching.
1Co 6:15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Messiah? Shall I then take the members of Messiah and make them members of a whore? Let it not be!
1Co 6:16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a whore is one body? For He says, “The two shall become one flesh.”
1Co 6:17 And he who is joined to the Master is one ruach.
1Co 6:18 Flee whoring. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits whoring sins against his own body.
1Co 6:19 Or do you not know that your body is the Dwelling Place of the Set-apart Ruach who is in you, which you have from Elohim, and you are not your own?
1Ti 1:3 As I appealed to you when I went into Makedonia, to remain in Ephesos, in order to command some not to teach differently,
1Ti 1:4 nor to pay attention to fables and endless genealogies, which cause disputes rather than an administration of Elohim which is in belief.
The Bible teaches that a believer’s ruach is united with YaHuWaH alone and with no one else. Not even in marriage do we unite spiritually with another person. Marriage unites a husband and wife in flesh only until the death of the body according to Romans 7. Our ruach is YaHuWaH’s alone.
Yes, there is a mate for you whom YaHuWaH has chosen and it is up to each of us to search and find him or her based on Scripture; but, no, that mate will not complete you nor will he or she behalf of your soul. Only YaHuWaH can complete each one of us, as He does in His time for His purpose. I hope this might help in some/any way. Much love and many blessings!